5 Essential stages to being an emotionally intelligent and supportive leader

Leading today recognises that both intellect and emotions are interconnected for any leader to be successful. There is more need for recognition of being equally empathetic and sensitive to the needs of others in modern day leadership.  Having emotional intelligence as a leader provides you with the ability to understand and manage your emotions. In turn use these to help you understand and manage the emotions of people you manage and work with. Implementing mutual value and talent to your organisation. To advance you need to be emotionally intelligent and supportive as a leader.

What are some qualities of this type of emotionally intelligent leader?

  • Someone who never lets their temper get out of control no matter what problem/s they are facing…
  • Someone who has the trust of their staff – listens to their team, is approachable and always makes carefully thought out informed decisions…
  • Someone who you can go to with your concerns and needs…
  • Someone who remains in control while calmly assessing the situation…

Why has it become so important in the workplace today?

Because there is a distinction between which leader is more effective simply because of their emotional intelligence to people and circumstances. Pivotal to a greater ability to competently manage, motivate and influence others.

It commences with a leader being aware and recognising their own emotions, what they mean and how they affect others. With this awareness, you can manage your own emotions and exhibit the capability to influence and manage the emotions of others. This theory by Daniel Goleman outlines both personal and social competence.

How can you become a leader who is more emotionally intelligent?

It takes practice. As you observe your feelings, take responsibility for them and celebrate all the positive things you do. Delegating time to gain expertise and aptitude can make you a proficient and better leader. Despite having technical skills, strategic thinking and good knowledge in your field; you require the interpersonal and intrapersonal skills that make you emotionally intelligent.

1| Develop self-awareness

Being self-aware means, you know how you feel and how your emotions and actions can affect those around you. In leading you highlight your strengths and work on your weaknesses by developing the quality of modesty and self-effacement.

  • Write down how you feel every day, so when you do experience negative emotions, you can take a step back and assess how you will choose to react by acknowledging your emotional triggers.

2| Develop self-management

When you learn how to manage yourself first, you will be more productive as a person. From being organised and having a schedule to staying in control. Because you understand the importance of personal accountability. You should have a code of conduct and are absolutely clear on your values so you will not compromise when faced with a moral or ethical issue.

  • Learning any new skill takes practice.
  • Practice being calm in challenging situations.
  • Practice deep breathing exercises when you find yourself wanting to fly off the handle.
  • Write your emotions down, but don’t show them to anyone. On paper you can challenge your reactions without having to share them with your peers or team.

3| Develop self-motivation

Setting goals for yourself is important before you set goals for your team. Think about moving out of your comfort zone, although be realistic. This includes achieving and working towards goals with high standards for quality and re-examining why you do what you do.

  • When faced with challenges and even failure adopt a positive mind set no matter what you face.
  • That way you can find the value of what you are learning about situations and can take away crucial points for future application.

4| Develop empathy

Obtain the ability to walk in the shoes of another is vital to success. Especially when you know how you would react to unfair actions. Listening to others and giving constructive feedback helps build respect, loyalty and show others you care.

  • Consider the perspective from the other person.
  • Pay attention to details like body language and the emotions of those you manage.

5| Develop social skills

Beginning with your own social skills, acquiring the ability to interact with others is important because as much as we understand our own feelings and the feelings of others, you need to build relationships with people.

  • How you conduct conversations – talk and listen, including non-verbal communication to respect diverse and cultural differences between people is all key to how persuasive you are and lead.

As you assign time to develop and practice emotional intelligence, you will initiate better choices, success in daily tasks and positive relationships with others.

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  1. 13 July 2019 / 8:50 pm

    Ava, there’s so much content and quotes and how-to articles about good leaders and effective leadership techniques. But sometimes we only focus on one aspect of what makes a great leader. Or, how leading well is all about people skills or how well you manage others or take charge. And those things add to the overall picture of a leader. Yet, we often forget to bring the emotional side of humans into the equation. Since we were created as emotional beings, it makes sense to learn to manage them wisely and may be one of the most important aspects of leaders! Thanks for this fresh insight!

  2. Ava
    14 July 2019 / 5:24 pm

    Thanks for your feedback Karen!

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