If you could step back in time and sit down with your younger self, what would you say?
Life should make us not only older, but wiser. As we learn from the lessons and experience the ups and downs through our life journey, embracing both challenges and celebrations. Even if changes in life colour our perspective and we view things a bit differently, we can gain more understanding, because prudence is never lost. Often, I overlook where I once was and how far I have come. And like so many women, regret the times I spent thinking someone else was smarter than me and had life all figured out. I doubt anyone had everything planned out. Or recognised that not everything has exactly turned out the way they originally planned it to. But who I am, my values and beliefs still remain today, not the worries of how I could measure up to everyone I thought was more successful than me and think that I never would.
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- If you could step back in time and sit down with your younger self, what would you say?
- Ever thought about the amount of time you would save if you became wiser by learning from the experiences of others?
- Looking back, would you have created a draft map of your goals and where you hoped to be?
- We all know hindsight is a wonderful thing, but what lessons could you reflect on to pass to others?
- What opportunities could you have taken advantage of?
- Did you overlook moments you could have engaged with others in thoughtful or inquisitive ways?
- What type of person do you want to be?
- Will you take the leap?
Ever thought about the amount of time you would save if you became wiser by learning from the experiences of others?
Everything in our lives happens for a reason. The horrible, the painful and the unfair. Our aim in life is to walk through it and become wise as we do. Because time is limited and the days are growing ever darker. And we cannot afford to waste both time and our lives failing to exercise wisdom from day to day. God’s word equips us with all we need providing us with sound advice.
- The book of Proverbs encourages us to find this gain knowledge, wisdom and instruction.
- To increase our need to learn, seek wise counsel and become prudent.
- And more significantly make God the centre of our lives.
- Because in following God’s word we will have true happiness.
Looking back, would you have created a draft map of your goals and where you hoped to be?
1| Learnng patience has been my life time pursuit, but worth every moment, Because now I can say, slow down and don’t worry so much about how things will turn out or who is watching. Just believe in yourself!
2| I cannot recall the amout of time I was always in a hurry, more than ever, it took me alot of investment to realise that I should set aside time to just get off the wheel of life. So just take time to reflect on your day and week. Then follow your talents and passions.
3| Like so many other mistakes, I had to learn how not to fall into this trap. To work hard and never concern yourself about what everyone else is doing, just focus on your own lane in life. Put yourself out there no matter what.
4| Personally I ignored so many red flags in my life, until one day I became more savvy to ignoring them and chose a turning point. Because intuition is really more reliable than your head or your heart. When you feel in doubt, calm down and think things through before acting or reacting.
5| No-one is exempt from fear. So if you want to start living with fear, learn to take smart risks in life when you are scared to death but you know it will be worth it. The important part is learning to respond not react to challenges and circumstances.
We all know hindsight is a wonderful thing, but what lessons could you reflect on to pass to others?
6| I remember how often I wanted to be perfect, the illusion of every airbrushed model we try so hard to replicate. But, then I discovered that why should I? Instead I stopped trying to be an imperfect copycat of someone I’m not and just be the best version of myself. If the fear of failing seems paralysing, just take one small step at a time.
7| Give up energy wasting exercises like wondering who likes you and trying to please other people. Every experience good and bad is never a waste. God can redeem your past experiences to propel you into your future.
8| Loving what you do and doing what you love is more important than any goal or reward. Hand in hand with hard work and more effort than you ever realised.
9| Having the courage to let go, walk away or say nothing is the most powerful thing you can sometimes do. And in the process helps you build resilience to support you when further setbacks transpire. Life’s experiences can be a hard teacher, but you just have to learn and never repeat your mistakes.
What opportunities could you have taken advantage of?
10| I am so glad my parents taught me the principle of saving money. You see saving for a rainy day and for your future as soon as you start working, is not just a cliche.
11| Managing your money is so important, being a good steward from the start will save you from making stupid mistakes or developing bad financial habits.
12| Primarily, I aim to believe in others, but choosing which battles to fight for and which ones to let go of never shows you are weak or cowardly. Just work with others in the same way you would like to be treated.
13| Never put off things for another day because another day you might not have the time, or it will be too late. And that goes for those opportunities that you missed, which may never come your way again.
14| Learn how to see the funny side of life and don’t always be so serious. There is no point in getting hung up on minor matters that could actually be opportunities. The world is bigger than you imagine and there are lots of different, interesting points of view that make you realise how insiginificant you are in this grand universe. So learn how to enjoy every moment and not fall into the trap of believing that you should take everything so seriously.
Did you overlook moments you could have engaged with others in thoughtful or inquisitive ways?
15| Recognise how to deal with pressure, I learned to in any and every way, because if you don’t know, you are opening the door to stress and it is not worth the toll on your health.
16| Learn how to stand up for yourself, because you are the only person who will and can. Remember one priority should be to maximise your quality and quantity of the years you will spend working and investing in your talents, skills and service to others.
17| Prepare yourself for change and life-altering shifts. Nothing lasts forever and one day you will have to lose those you love or see people walk away. Being attentive can make you become a person who responds cautiously, rather than react in haste.
18| Whatever you do, do it with all your heart – tap into your potential and find your God-given purpose. Take time to serve and engage with those around you, by giving of your resources and not expecting anything in return.
19| Never allow the mediocre comments of others to destroy your dreams. Or even let one person stop you from believing that you can do something great with your life. No one can make you feel inadequate, unless you allow them to. Be that go-getter that knows what they want and keeps chasing until they get it.
20| Trying to fit in will be a losing battle you won’t win. So will wanting to look or act a certain way that isn’t you. In the end, you will only make yourself unhappy. Leading to negative self-talk and losing respect in who you really are. I have learned to choose who God made me to be and that is to be the best and only version of you, so be proud to be different!
What type of person do you want to be?
- When someone yells at you, react with a soft answer.
- When you don’t know what choice to make, ask for advice.
- When you want to become a good friend, be that friend.
- When you don’t like gossip, stay away from those who do.
- When you don’t want to be short tempered, be wary of those who are.
- What behaviours should you avoid – senseless arguments and being a meddler or the person who flatters insincerely.
- When you want to be a good manager and stay on top of your game.
- When you want to be a good leader – don’t oppress your staff and not be concerned about them. Help them understand how their investment benefits the company.
- Here is a secret to gain loyalty and love.
- Something to consider when you are unsure of which priorities to choose, right living will never fail.
- When should you involve God in your affairs? Always, because then you will see more success.
Expand your skill set, life is a never-ending journey of continuous professional development. Learn and never stop learning to be a better person, have good manners, be kind and pursue skills that will enhance your abilities and enlarge your interests for the better.
Will you take the leap?
Maybe you haven’t discovered your purpose, focus on doing one thing at a time until you realise which aspects of your life are important. Everything will start to fall into place from the sacrifices and hard work you put in to your efforts. Don’t be fixated on a plan, as plans change, be prepared to go with the process sometimes. And learn when to back off, sometimes we try so hard to make friends, others like us or find the right relationship. But when you focus on being a more amazing, interesting and honest person – choosing to live with integrity – you will attract the right people. By failing you discover how to become smart and succeed. You also gain self-confidence and believe in yourself more.
In the end, if you want to outweigh all the regrets in your life and avoid the countless mistakes that could destroy you, choose to reverence God in every choice. Knowing what God requires of you will keep you away from wrong doing. Then you need to unravel every challenge to acquire new opportunities and never forget to have fun as you keep focused, invest in yourself, view every step as a progression and accelerate the curve of life while asking questions unceasingly. Pursue wisdom and you will always succeed if you make your relationship with God your top priority. – to evade the perils of inappropriate friendships, relationships, attitudes and behaviours.
Share your thoughts…
What notes of advice would you give your younger self? Did you imagine life to be the way it is now?