Do you worry about what others think of you?
Where you place more confidence in the opinions of others than your own?
There is much power in our words, our tongue can speak life or death into situations. (Proverbs 18:21) That’s why it is imperative to become mindful of what we are saying to others. And when it comes to self-esteem, what we are saying to ourselves. God has provided us with the tools to ensure that our mouth is producing progression, not regression in our lives. Rather than being obsessed about everything negative, start becoming obsessed about everything positive about yourself. When I stop thinking about being afraid and failing and see every step up an opportunity to being great, then I can identify ways to overcome low self-esteem.
Low self-esteem can lead you to avert constructive criticism and prevent you from venturing into new challenges
Turn to prayer and ask God to remove the lies of who you believe you are. Steadily, you will be able to appreciate yourself as remarkable, chosen and worthy. There are many stories in the bible of women who believed they were worthless. In this post, the spotlight is on Hagar, (Genesis 16) who I feel for many reasons fled from Sarah, because of the way she was being treated.
- We know very little about her, she was a maid servant and due to despair, Sarah suggested she bear a child in her place.
- For much of her story, we note Hagar’s vulnerability and voicelessness as she then experiences Sarah’s oppression and anger due to her pregnancy.
- Hagar became the outcast and may have believed God had forgotten her and so she flees. It would be obvious to note that Hagar’s self-esteem was non-existent.
- Despite her situation, it was God’s grace that met her in the desert, alone, rejected and with child. And in that moment of cruelty, God heard her anguished heart, past her mistreatment and renewed her sense of worth. With His compassion to cope with her affliction.
If you are struggling with self-esteem. God can empower your life with His grace to endure hardship. He wants to make you strong. And become your source of hope.
4 easy tips to overcome low self esteem
1| Associate with people who will uplift, not deflate you
When you connect with people who seem to brighten any moment, your attitude will be energised to be successful. Making headway to adopt a happy and positive approach to life. Because positivity is contagious. Motivating you to move forward, navigate towards triumphs and progress, avoid downward spirals and be persuaded to make good and healthy decisions in life. Ultimately, you will absorb confidence to inspire others by being a ray of sunshine.
2| Take time to know your ‘self’
This starts with loving who you are. You are obliged to be an original.
- Think about the way you make others feel. How important you are to the people in your life and the impact you leave with the people you meet every day.
- When you feel comfortable doing things which add quality and quantity to your life – your outlook changes to consistently happy. Becoming a magnet for achievement, in addition to being generous with your time and talents.
3| Personal growth begins when you recognise where you need to change
Transformation and adjustments commence by getting out of your comfort zone. Developing a thick skin by searching for meaning in your life.
- Determine how to be assertive by knowing you might be good, but could be even better.
- Then gather inspiration to set intentions for the short and long term future.
- Gradually implement your goals (one by one) as you move towards your dreams.
- Embrace personal growth as a never-ending and exciting journey.
- To learn from every lesson, work on your weaknesses and amplify your strengths. Particularly, as we all face new lockdown and social isolation measures.
4| Stop the comparison trap
Pause the urge to compare, by being aware that what you have is enough. Who you are is good enough. Be grateful, count your blessings, focus on your strengths, it’s ok to be imperfect.
- Don’t allow yourself to be defined by someone else – you define who you are.
- Shatter those desires to feel discontented with your live leading to insecurity and envy.
- Never be afraid to be silent because you cannot speak up for yourself.
- Think about the times you used critical self-talk. How far did that get you? Try being approving to yourself instead. By focusing on what you are doing right and what you do have, instead of the opposite – highlighting your flaws and mistakes.
- You don’t have to mimic someone else’s life. Avoid those inferior triggers. You were created to be exclusive and different.
What would you do differently to beat low self-esteem? The situation in our world may appear to be hopeless. Everything might seem as if it’s falling apart and like Hagar we can easily become afraid in the wilderness we find ourselves lost in. But right where you are, God sees you. He hears you. He knows your pained heart. He can rescue you in the same way He reached out to Hagar crying in the desert for help. And what an incredible story of how God used Sarah’s plan B in His great plan. Because for a second time, we discover how Hagar and her son Ishmael were sent away by Sarah. (Genesis 21:9-21) Again Hagar cried out to God and He heard her! Saving her and her son and making his descendants into a great nation. Taking her from inadequate and unacceptable to knowing she was unique and had self-worth.
Share your thoughts…
When you value yourself and your time, you act as if everything you do makes a positive difference.
How will you not allow the opinions of othere to validate your sense of self-worth and overcome self-esteem?