40 Lifehacks To Stop Obsessing And Begin Living A Life Of Laughter And Love

Do you dream of a life that is filled with love and laughter?

Where you live happy and fulfilled everyday?

You feel inspired to change. But somehow you just don’t make that first step to learn from setbacks, so that the instruction part doesn’t become difficult. Where you add the sassy elements of your personality that shapes who you are. To become a stronger person to discern life lessons. When you don’t have to apologise for who you are. Or make excuses about why you plan to live a fun life.

Chase God’s wisdom, that assists you to look back at some awful decisions you once made and think – why did I do that? Then brazenly tell yourself to grab every opportunity and begin living your life.

Are there things you wish you would have done differently?

Do you wish you knew back then, what you know now?

About studying and school, friendships and relationships, all those meaningful moments that you thought were obstacles and delays. Those events you viewed as lost breaks but became stepping stones, encouraging you to grow and develop as you gained supplementary skills that contribute to your success today. Along this path you discover new ways of thinking and security in who you are, because you know your identity is in who God has made you to be.

Isn’t it odd that back when we were younger, we wanted to grow up. But now we wish that the years would slow down a bit?

There is so much I could say to you to help you pursue a life full of laughing, living and loving. Now I have this chance, I would start with saying this…

  • Learn how to laugh at yourself, because this humour will sustain you in the darkest valleys of life.
  • Become a prayer warrior, not a constant worrier. Instead of spending countless hours whirling in circles worrying, I wish I went first to the One who is first in my life!
  • Never be afraid to be yourself. To boldly stand up for what you believe in.
  • Keep your chin up, in those perplexing moments when you refuse to conform to secular standards. Even when others think you are odd.
  • It takes time and hard work to build strong relationships.
  • In any relationship, don’t ignore the red flags, there is a reason you feel those sudden or flash warnings.
  • Cherish friendships while you are young. Spend time having fun and building memorable phases, because life has a way of taking us to different places and leading us down diverging paths.
  • Family matters most. Those important periods you overlook will mean more than any career, person or event.
  • Work on your self-confidence so that when you walk into the room you won’t worry about what people think about you, because you know who you are.
  • Study more; push yourself out of your comfort limits.
  • Don’t try to be someone else. Or change in the hope someone will like you or stay.
  • Trust your intuition, if you believe something isn’t right, then 99% of the time it isn’t.
  • Your self-talk should be uplifting not critical.
  • You won’t always see the bigger picture, but that doesn’t mean there will always be dark clouds ahead. The sun will filter through if you persevere.
  • What doesn’t kill you, definitely will make you stronger. When you make a mistake, try to learn from the lesson no matter how difficult.
  • Be proud of yourself, its ok to give yourself a pat on the back when you know how far you have come, from when you first started.
  • Never waste time planning a future around someone who only viewed you as an option.
  • Being tired is not a weakness; physical and emotional fatigue needs some attention, but shouldn’t stop us from moving forward.
  • Get to know who you are and want to be. Not what someone else expects you to be.
  • Be your authentic self. Make time to play as you pursue your dreams.

  • Know where your identity is founded. Your self-worth should never be because of relationship or how someone else makes you feel. You should already be a happy and attractive person that others like who you are.
  • By no means devalue your self-esteem by changing to fit the ideals of someone else.
  • Recognise the difference between flattery and loyalty. Attention doesn’t mean someone wants to be with you.
  • Sometimes our parents do know what is best. Their advice holds a lot of weight. Even if you choose not to listen at the time.
  • Where will you be in 5 or 10 years from now? Does the person you want to be with now. Will you want to be with the person you are then?
  • Don’t pressurise yourself to follow the crowd. To rush into relationships because all your friends are. Relationships should follow a natural progression.
  • Would you want to fall in love with you? Become the person you want to love forever!
  • Take the hint to run when someone blurts out their flaws, it’s probably a subtle but huge warning when someone tells you they are not good enough for you.
  • Being kind is important. Your smile could change someone’s world and be contagious.
  • What you say matters. Choose your words carefully.
  • Read more. If you can, at least one book a week.
  • Get out of your comfort zone. What’s the worst thing that could happen if you chose to live your life? Find your own blank _____________________________________________ practicing every compliment you received as you become strong willed because you gain confidence.
  • You choose when you ‘make’ things happen. Or ‘let’ things happen. Gain the wisdom to know when not to ‘force’ things and when to ‘move’ confidently in the right direction.
  • What others think of you is not your business. Never allow what you think others are thinking to hold you back from being you.
  • Remember those moments where you couldn’t quite make the next class or you had an extended probationary period? 1) Accept the situation. 2) Learn the lesson. 3) Listen attentively. Because every opportunity in life is key to timing. Of who we are becoming and where setbacks can turn into life changing progression.
  • Motivation is a button you have to learn how to effectively push. Along life’s path as you inspire yourself. That’s right keep looking for inspiration everywhere you go!
  • Experiences are scary but amazing. They assist you to grow. Realise the world is bigger than you. But also teach you the value of respect as you mould a rewarding life.
  • When love is mutual, you won’t feel like you are settling because your friends, family and lives will simply merge.
  • Although you grow up – gain more wisdom, become more discerning. Always be that child who loved to play in the garden on the swing.
  • Appreciate and be grateful for the simple things in your life, because they are the big parts that make life worth living.

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  1. 17 February 2020 / 11:08 pm

    Wow love all these tips! I like to live a joy filled life and this post spoke right to me! Thank you Ava!

  2. 18 February 2020 / 6:32 pm

    Ava, these are fabulous tips. The ones that resonate the greatest are those that remind us to live in the identity God’s given us…brazenly.

  3. Ava
    18 February 2020 / 9:13 pm

    I am so grateful for your encouragement Donna! So glad this was beneficial xx

  4. Ava
    18 February 2020 / 9:15 pm

    So thankful for your uplifting words Jeanne! Yes knowing who we in Christ is so liberating xx

  5. 19 February 2020 / 2:01 pm

    These are wonderful tips! I feel like just taking one per week and focusing on it would be a great practice. Thanks for sharing!

  6. Ava
    20 February 2020 / 9:29 am

    Thanks Jensi! There are alot. I hope they can help in any way!

  7. Ej
    22 February 2020 / 2:09 am

    What an awesome post! I wish I had read these tips when I was younger. I would probably be so much farther in my life. Thank you for sharing these words of wisdom.

  8. Ava
    24 February 2020 / 1:15 pm

    Thanks for your encouragement Ej! I started this month’s posts as letters to self so l am so glad they have been beneficial!

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