Why Is Letting Go So Hard? 3 Great Steps To Finding Freedom

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Have you ever told someone to just let go and move on?

Letting go is part of life, but something we all battle with. Simpler said than done, it seems harder to learn how to start over than it does to let go. It can begin with letting things be and learning the lesson. Whether this is in relationships or situations. Unfortunately, to live a fulfilled life, letting go is a detachment you need to manage. If you are to release the past and and become acquainted with the effects of relinquishing people and possessions through your life journey.

The emotions you filter are important, because you should never hate anyone, phase or place you once were at. Part of this change means you might lose security for a time. Be flooded with feelings of shame or regret. But, think about what you will lose out on if you never venture beyond where you are right now. And possibly the opportunity for something better to discover beyond that.

1| Let go of control

Learning how to take control only of what you can control is significant. Otherwise you will spend time prioritising the wrong things. The greatest peace comes when we choose to stop figuring everything out and let stuff go. Breaking off control is never easy. We may not be able to control someone else or a situation, but we can control our reactions and actions.

In letting go of control, I have learned that this is something you need to do every single day, it’s not a once done never to be repeated exercise.

2| Let go of certainty

That does not mean you need to be uncertain about everything. But that you embrace an openness and curiosity to every attempt at living. As you evolve and grow. Often, we hold on and hang in there long past the signs that we should not. You are stronger when you know you have to let go and then do it. When you do, you keep moving forward without hesitating as you leap and try not to look back.

What has happened in the past should not define you, because only you can make the choice of who you will become. Instead of allowing past hurts or disputes to drag you down.

In releasing uncertainty, I have learned that if you wanted to be respected, you need to realise that you can survive without someone. You are not captive to your history and that includes all those real and perceived hurts.

3| Let go of caution

We cannot avoid failing. The option of always choosing to be cautious might hold us back from ever living. The part you should hold onto is not that you should have done something, but you can do something new, by releasing and letting go. Forgetting the past is not easy at all, but forging ahead into the future takes courage and perception.

Resentment can keep us bound to someone we ought to have forgiven a long time ago. In letting go we are not dissolving the memories of the things we once know. But we are embracing compassion and the possibilities of newness if we don’t hold on to the baggage of past careers, friends and relationships.

In replacing caution, I am learning that it can be simple, but it requires a conscious choice to correct one’s own misperceptions. We should not allow the world around us to move past and we remain stagnant. Alternatively it’s important to get rid of those old habits that have prevented you from thriving and flourishing; if you are learn how to let go progressively and successively throughout life.

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How do you let go?

Moses was one of the most significant leaders of the Old Testament. He gave up fortune for faith. An influencer in his day. A man of remarkable courage and prodigious knowledge. Author of the Books of Law. Struggled with letting go of his past. Yet his life is filled with exemplary lessons of letting go. His mother had to let go of Moses, so that his life would be saved. Moses learned how to let go as God removed him from the place of extensive wealth to reframe his perspective in the desert and wilderness. In order to embrace his calling and extraordinary legacy.

Lessons we can gain from Moses’s life and letting go

  • Practice is strategic to gaining this lesson we will encounter throughout our lives.
  • Adopting a calm composure allows the process of letting go happen as we embrace mixed emotions in the situation.
  • While we may move slowly forward. Step back, move on and smile even when you feel like you don’t want to.
  • Throughout this lifetime you will constantly learn to love people and let go, and repeat this course again and again.
  • Letting go of our expectations requires trust in accepting what God has for us and the life He meant for us to live.

4 responses to help you let go

Maybe the life you wanted isn’t the life you now have. Or the relationship you hoped to be in never happened. Reminiscing over the good old days, will never allow God to open new doors of blessing and opportunity. God is able to restore and rebuild your confidence. In addition, He will never mark you as a failure, but will renew hope. To help you break free from disillusionment, mistakes and regret.

  • Exercise your generosity – to give things away that you love, as a gift to someone else. And as you do it helps you to understand the significance of how this relates to the bigger picture of letting go in your work, with your family and loved ones.
  • Notice the obstacles – these enable you to know which bridges to cross over or walk away from. This isn’t quitting, but simply allows you to focus on what is important. Then instead of making excuses, pursue measures to be more productive, efficient and effective. With the energy used in holding onto something that you should let go.
  • Interrupt yourself from judging a situation – when you become insightful and realise your actions, you can eliminate those negative emotions. And move towards positive responses.
  • Be mindful – by submitting to the situation and choosing to be mindful of now. You might not be able to alter the situation, but you can motivate yourself to move on, forgive and learn from the mistakes of the past as you progressively chase continuous positive acts that amount to long-term change.

Overcoming negative emotion can be relentless. That is why it is important to gain tactics to halt your attempts to try and control the environment. Letting go is linked with forgiveness and this is probably only when you can experience freedom and move away from your yesterday. I don’t think there will be less pain, but once your decision is made, you are taking responsibility for how control, certainty and caution influence you.

What does God say about letting go?

  1. Trust the Lord completely, and don’t depend on your own knowledge.  With every step you take, think about what he wants, and he will help you go the right way. Proverbs 3:5-6
  2. Give all your worries to him, because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7
  3. I say this because I know the plans that I have for you.” This message is from the Lord. “I have good plans for you. I don’t plan to hurt you. I plan to give you hope and a good future. Jeremiah 29:11
  4. So, don’t remember what happened in earlier times. Don’t think about what happened a long time ago, because I am doing something new! Now you will grow like a new plant. Surely you know this is true. I will even make a road in the desert, and rivers will flow through that dry land. Isaiah 43:18-19
  5. Keep your eyes on the path, and look straight ahead. Make sure you are going the right way, and nothing will make you fall. Don’t go to the right or to the left, and you will stay away from evil. Proverbs 4:25-27

Practicality is the answer to letting go of negative feelings, past relationships or even stress

In a nutshell, letting go can be unbelievably difficult. Surrender every day with those worries you cling onto to God. Starting with prayer and a bible verse can assist with the painful parts of moving on. God can handle your struggles, even if you desperately attempt to hold onto the familiar. He sees your potential – what is limiting you and your capabilities. And that does not include your past. What He has is a vision for new adventures ahead and the door of new possibilities. Create space to learn and grow by acquiring new skills and activities. That reiginite your lost passions. And express your emotions through creativity like dancing, painting, playing a musical instrument or writing. With patience and time you will master how to let go with more successes and less regrets. Becoming wiser to the things you should allow yourself to get attached to and those you can let go of.


There are many questions like how and why, particularly when we struggle with holding on. Searching for what God says, in additon to acquiring practical ways are beneficial advances en route to letting go of control, certainty and caution to find freedom.

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