Amazing Lessons Learned From The Road Less Travelled As You Live In The Face Of Adversity

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Happy 2020! How exciting to be entering a New Decade!

Life is filled with seasons. Times for festivities and times to grieve. Milestones help us reflect on life. The road less travelled is a lonely one, but stages an unspoiled prospect to expose your own rules, obtained with God’s wisdom, for how you will live your life when faced with adverse circumstances and learn lessons from the road less travelled.

Are you a January baby?

Being born in this brand new month on the threshold of a New Year and decade is simply breath-taking. Positioning you in the ideal place to ponder over past lessons, ahead of discovering rules that are birthed from your deliberations.

Every lesson in life holds interest to our journey. And relevance. There will be meanings and significance as you advance along your path. My hope is that the value we acquire from learning, presents us with opportunities to new roads and open doors along this lifetime. We become wise through our personal experiences and the influences we obtain along these encounters with life and others. Broadening our perspective and gaining knowledge worth taking with us as we continue.

In 2018, I wrote a book Notes To Self ‘Always Believe As You Keep Moving Through Loss And Brokenness’. While this book is aimed at loss and heartbreak, there are many notes we can transfer to every area of our lives. The clue to life is maintaining positive concentration as we move through every season from brokenness until we reach wholeness.

1| Learn to let go

You will not be able to let go, until you embrace the pain – from thoughts to actions. The more you let go of inessential details, the more freedom you will gain. Because the power we give to past mistakes, shame and regret can be repeated continuously in our head. If we made the choice to discard the worry and frustration, we will immediately gather peace. This requires mastering new skills as you take responsibility for your life. To release negative emotions, stress and past relationships rather than dwelling on the past.

  • Is this difficult or incapable? The choice is yours to undertake as you step forward and detach yourself from the past that will only drag you down.

2| Discover your limitations

You can change a situation, remove yourself from it or accept it. Both hold emotions that will hurl you into a rollercoaster. But life is a revolving test. You have to delve within to find out where your true strengths and weaknesses lie. At times, the lessons in life expose our weaknesses and highlight that it won’t always be easy.

Sometimes you have to leave the beaten track, to discover the path less travelled. Most of this means you will lose who you are to find your true self! Pushing yourself to seek the wilderness brings both beauty and risk. But part of searching for adventure means you discover how to manage the risks life presents you. By not allowing any limitation to impose itself in your mind and halt you from chasing your dreams.

3| Refuse to give up

Have you ever faced a moment in your life when you were so desperate to overcome a challenge or fulfil a longing in your heart?

If you stop because you believe you fail, then you will regret not trying. Time has a way of reminding us that we all will eventually grow old. If you never confront your fears or discover the unknown, you will live a life that lacks value. Simply because you believed that challenges are outside your level of experience. Run faster; don’t let anything make you fall behind. As you rise up against the odds.

4| Develop self – become aware and improve

Self-development is essential in our culture, that is constantly evolving. Nothing is totally immune to adaptability in the workplace today. Before you can develop, you need to accept yourself. Where you are right now and who you are. This is a skill that anyone can become proficient at with tolerance and time.

  • How do you become self-aware? Understand yourself. Read, study and collect all the ways you want to improve.
  • Are you objective in the way you view yourself? Do you record your goals, plans and priorities on a daily basis?
  • More importantly, do you conclude your day by taking time to self-reflect on all those goals, plans and your priority list?

Before you fly off the handle to criticise someone else. Look at yourself first in an honest and open way and contemplate if anything you are about to say resembles any of your own shortcomings.

5| Be grateful

Have you noticed how many things you have already been ‘picky’ about today?

From the people you don’t like, to situations that have somehow made you critique. Moaning and whinging repel people.

  • Why would we want to be that person who is always grumbling or complaining?

Whenever you are tempted to complain, bite your tongue. Yes bite it. And think of one think you can be grateful for instead. This all requires you changing your perspective so that you are not always taking what you have for granted. Stopping to notice the little things, because often they are big. And most of all live the words you speak, rather than express them without any appreciation.

6| Set yourself one challenge for every day

Research provides us with numerous studies. The effectiveness of intervention and how this can produce positivity to our health and wellbeing. When you boost yourself in an optimistic manner, you are increasing not only your ability to cope with crises but improve your health. Perhaps you thinking, I have heard this all before.

  • Why should I apply myself to self-improvement?

You are the only one that can challenge yourself, to grow by how far you are willing to do something that will scare you. To prod you out of your comfort zone. A personal mood changer is music. If you listen to music for the mood you want to be in and not the mood you currently are, you will discover how quickly you can turn a situation from sad and downcast to cheerful and upbeat.

7| Wisely realise you only have one life

When was the last time you fell in love with life? Like step out the door and thought. Today I will see life as________ Fill in the blank by finding optimism to counteract every negative thought that slips into your mind.

  • Do you automatically say I can’t without even thinking, that you can?

Don’t allow you to be the person that derails you from the track of your life. Swiftly pull yourself back on track, by empowering yourself to recognise, cope and better understand the world. Life is like a computer game. If you want to succeed you need to keep levelling up.

8| Begin today

How will you ever know if you can launch something revolutionary or world changing if you never start? We all embrace procrastination at times. But we should not grant inactive waiting the option that deprives us of all we can fill our tomorrow with. Every situation is our journey. The way we view it – as overwhelming or daunting is the only thing stopping us from commencing that first step.

  • How do you aspire to change if you don’t make the decision to personally grow?

You hold your own purpose and values in your heart. Begin your life handbook, like a personalised manual for life and start living life to the fullest. So that one day you can look back gladly, knowing that you gave yourself the best chance to begin living your life.

Do you have a word for 2020?

Choosing a word in place of a new year’s resolution has become popular as an innovative prospect to incorporate the word to every choice, decison and action you make. Have you lived up to the word you chose for last year?

Over the last year l focused on being awesome in every aspect of my life. To push myself by growing and being accountable, while acknowledging difficulties and evaluating my progress. This year my word is embrace. Where I will embrace failing as a new opportunity. To hound every passion in life and embrace progress.

Share your thoughts…

What word will you choose? Drop me a comment l would love to hear more about your inspiring word.

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Don’t know where to start? Practice makes perfect and you only get one chance to be the best version of yourself! Now is the time to invest in you. You can find a better way to get through you break-up. Infuse every moment with beauty. Influence every God-given dream into your destiny. And impress your tomorrow with hope and expectancy. You don’t have to do this alone and I know exactly how you feel. But there is hope in your journey, To discover that the sky is the limit. And find an undying passion for living purposefully in the centre of God’s will!

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Help Share The Inspiration!



  1. Jessica Brodie
    6 January 2020 / 6:29 pm

    So motivating, Ava. Thank you!

  2. Ava
    6 January 2020 / 11:10 pm

    Thanks Jessica for always stopping by!

  3. Ava
    6 January 2020 / 11:15 pm

    Great word Sara! So wonderfully said. Read your post but couldn’t leave a comment.

  4. 7 January 2020 / 8:17 pm

    Lots of great insight here, Ava! I think learning to let go was the first big step for me in moving through brokenness and into knowing God better and finding healing. But every one of of these points is so spot on! I love your word for the year!

    My focus word is Present. I’ll see which meanings God intends me to learn from . . . being present with my people, choosing to walk through doors and into opportunities God presents me with, and/or maybe receiving presents of one sort or another through the year. 🙂 We’ll have to see how this year unfolds!

  5. Ava
    7 January 2020 / 8:45 pm

    I love your word too. Because it reminds me that today is a gift from God filled with His grace which l don’t even deserve but because of His great love He extends it to me in every situation. I think the nicest present we can give and receive is kindness to one another! Thanks for sharing Jeanne!

  6. 9 January 2020 / 11:33 pm

    My word for 2020 is refine…. and such a huge part of it is continuing to Let Go as you mentioned in your post. I can’t tell you how hard I find letting go of things, particularly my ideals about something, or opinions…. but I’ve let go of enough now to know how valuable and necessary it is to live a life in the peace Jesus gives. This post is chockers with wisdom Ava, so many of us need it. Bless you my friend xx

  7. 10 January 2020 / 2:57 pm

    Thanks for the post Ava. I think that it is so challenging to discern when to release something and when to persevere and refuse to give up. Sometimes I have persisted and should have let go. Other times I think I have perhaps stopped something before I should have. It takes great wisdom to navigate the one life we have been given!

  8. Ava
    10 January 2020 / 5:33 pm

    Absolutely Anne! And only something we can receive with God’s wise hand and directing as we discern more and more.

  9. Ava
    10 January 2020 / 5:36 pm

    Thanks Chrissie! What an amazing word. I like that, refine – especially as we discern what is wise or not!

  10. 12 January 2020 / 3:26 pm

    I memorized the Swindoll quote you included and strive to make my attitude like Jesus’s. Thanks for inspiring me!

  11. Ava
    12 January 2020 / 4:25 pm

    You welcome! Have a great week Candice!

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