How To Be Optimistic In Tragic Circumstances

It’s easy to tell someone else to be hopeful and optimistic in their tragedy when your own life is filled with sunshine and beaming with happiness.

But, when devastation hits our lives. Rather quickly, emotions of anger, despair, pain, loss, grief, and so on are exposed. When God takes you to the edge. He will do one of two things. He will catch you as you fall. Or He will teach you how to fly!

Personally, I would rather learn how to fly, but we must fall first before we can fly.

The gist of my blog is about finding hope and being thankful, no matter what. Said in the same sentence, it seems too painful to bear, especially if your glowing, happy world is turned upside down, inside out and shaken to the core. You may even be saying as you are reading this, How do you know? Because of the LORD’s great love we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is His faithfulness. [Lamentations 3:22-23]

This is not about my story. Although I have been through my own valley of despair and I sometimes ask God, ‘What is the point You are trying to make, or the lesson You are trying to teach me through this?’  My ‘valley of despair’ blew my ideas out of the water and tested the very foundation of my faith, but it also placed me with an opportunity to pursue the heart of God. Just the beginning, and glimpses of how I have encountered Him in such an extraordinary way has given me the chance to comprehend what ‘trusting God’ actually means.

Only Christ offers unlimited and eternal hope.

  • Creating wish lists.
  • Drafting plans.
  • Arranging agendas.
  • Making resolutions.

Don’t get me wrong. These are all good aims. However, all of these become nothing unless we choose Christ as the centre. Make prayer the wheel that turns our lives. And opt for a relationship with Christ as our first priority. Unless we diligently study His word. Inscribe His law in our thinking. And engrave His promises in our heart. All else will fail.

“Who among the gods is like you, LORD? Who is like You — majestic in holiness, awesome in glory, working wonders?” [Exodus 15:11]

I often question, what is the purpose for which Christ allows us to be tested and tried? From one circumstance to the other. Difficulty after another.

Maybe it’s to find hope in Him alone. To be thankful despite the way things are. To make us stronger. To separate the wheat from the chaff. To compel us to depend on Him. To sink our roots into Him. To gain a new perspective. To learn to appreciate what He has given us. To appoint our calling. To create a miracle.  So that when it happens, there won’t be any doubt that it was HIM! Often what we ask God for is not what He gives us. He sees the bigger picture of which we only know a part.

In hindsight, this is hard to swallow. In contrast, when life throws us hard blows it is difficult to find a reason to smile, let alone hope.  Even if you can’t or it seems too painful to. Somewhere through the tears, the pain, remember that, after every storm, there will be a rainbow. God’s thoughts are nothing like your thoughts. And His ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. [Isaiah 55:8] God’s promises to us are eternal, for He Himself has said He will never leave us or forsake. [Hebrews 13:5-6]


Don’t know where to start? Practice makes perfect and you only get one chance to be the best version of yourself! Now is the time to invest in being you. Infuse every moment with beauty. Influence every God-given dream into your destiny. And impress your tomorrow with hope and expectancy. Join me on a journey where the sky is the limit. To find an undying passion for living in the centre of God’s will!

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  1. 7 January 2019 / 5:14 pm

    Ava, I appreciate your post and insights. I too have walked through a season or ‘valley of despair’ that “blew my ideas out of the water and tested the very foundation of my faith, but it also placed me with an opportunity to pursue the heart of God.” A great reminder that when we turn to God and trust him in the hard seasons of our lives it will likely be where we experience the most transformation and the most growth in our relationship with God. And although we will all we walk through suffering seasons, at one time or another in our lives, I am so grateful that I had Jesus as my rock and foundation when I faced hardship. For some it might be hard to comprehend, but those of us who believe know with a certainty that trusting Jesus ensures that we can find joy and hope, even in the hardest of winter seasons..

  2. 7 January 2019 / 8:42 pm

    The timing of this post is perfect. I needed this encouragement today as I’m facing a very difficult health challenge. I love the verse, “Because of the LORD’s great love we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is His faithfulness.” [Lamentations 3:22-23] Thanks for your encouraging words. God bless you.

  3. Ava
    7 January 2019 / 9:17 pm

    Thanks Anneliese, recent circumstances made me reflect on this post, which I had written a number of years ago but never posted it. God never changes and that is so amazing.

  4. Ava
    7 January 2019 / 9:19 pm

    Thanks Anne, what you say is so true. Trusting God is key especially when we are faced with a tough season. He allows us to grow closer to Him and in that we learn so much about ourselves and know God in a deeper more profound way.

  5. 8 January 2019 / 4:07 am

    I am excellent at making lists, plans, schedules, and filling out my agenda. But you are so right about what’s more important. If Jesus isn’t in those efforts of mine, I’m pretty much wasting my planning time!

  6. Ava
    8 January 2019 / 8:57 pm

    Thanks for sharing Linda. Sometimes we can get on our own agenda and forget God, which ends up like you said wasting precious time.

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