How can you develop as a leader and be personally effective?

Steps to becoming personally effective as one who leads includes you gaining wisdom. Because before you can lead others you have to lead yourself.

But, just how do you do that?

It commences with how you think and act. There is a difference between being smart and being wise. And one misconception is that wisdom is only acquired by people who are older and have lived for many years. If we continually make decisions based on our instincts without any thought of the consequences, do you think this is wise?

As a leader you are continually encouraged to develop and part of this requires ‘self-directed learning’ as outlined in the theory of Boyatzis. This is an intentional decision – to become more effective on a personal level and sustainable. When you understand the process of change and the steps you can take to go through it, you will be inspired to take the initiative to commit to continual learning. In a step to gain more knowledge. The process will be long but can be enriched over the course of your life, because you recognise the need to understand yourself first.

Do you consider your role of leadership as a job?

Sorry to disappoint you, but that isn’t quite the case. It’s more complex, because you are intermingling a wide scope of your personal and professional qualities and experiences. Including structured reflection which enhances our understanding and enlightens our actions. Plus learning how to sustain your personal effectiveness. The crux is that you want to be personally effective and by constant review and reflection you are enacting this process.

Here are five questions to ask yourself based on the five discoveries by Richard Boyatzis

  • Who do I want to be?
  • Who am I? (Look at your strengths and the gaps)
  • How can I build on my strengths while reducing the gaps?
  • What actions do I need to take? (Master new behaviours, thoughts and emotions)
  • Who can help me? (Finding support through mentors and building trusting relationships)

It might be that you want to work on all in succession or individually or together. But work in a sequence, as you cannot start from the last question first. They require a commitment from you of your time and effort.

  • Firstly you have to make an assessment of your ‘ideal’ self (who you want to be) and your ‘real self’ (who you are now). As you assess your style and habits you will become emotionally intelligent investing in a never ending process of growth and adaption.

  • Secondly, imagine yourself looking into a mirror where you are trying to figure out who you are now. Have you thought about how you act and how others view you and what you believe in?
  • Thirdly, you need to begin a plan that you will act upon. All the new things you will try one day at a time. To build upon your strengths and move closer to being your ‘ideal self’.
  • Fourthly, is probably the most important, because any mastery of a skill requires practice. So why would leadership skills be exempt from practice.
  • Fifthly, you and only you can assess and re-assess yourself across the time line of your life and career with the help of a mentor or support so that you can identify your ‘ideal self’ and find your ‘real self’. The point of this task is to discover your strengths and work on the gaps through experimenting and practice.

These theories show us that we will be unable to develop as an effective leader without personally growing, because it comes down to our progressive authenticity as one who leads.

  • How we think and behave and are perceived by others.
  • Procure awareness of our own values, morals, perspectives, knowledge, strengths and that of others.
  • And can convey this in a confident, optimistic and resilient manner.

Will you opt to be a great leader who inspires, motivates and ignites passion in others to not only dream but reach their targets and perform?

Maximising your potential begins when you make the choice to push yourself beyond your limits.

  • Do you need to enlarge your personal vision?
  • Manage the pressure yet make inescapable sacrifices in your role by being mindful and compassionate?

Right here is your start based on the theories and discoveries of Richard Boyatzis, distinguished professor of Organizational Behaviour, Psychology, and Cognitive Science. This takes time and dedication. Discover your sense of purpose and fuel your passion to be a great leader through conscious effort together with founding positive relationships. Find excitement through the trying times always discovering strength to deal with disappointments and challenges as you patiently journey in the direction of transformation.

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Don’t know where to start? Practice makes perfect and you only get one chance to be the best version of yourself! Now is the time to invest in you. You can find a better way to get through you break-up. Infuse every moment with beauty. Influence every God-given dream into your destiny. And impress your tomorrow with hope and expectancy. You don’t have to do this alone and I know exactly how you feel. But there is hope in your journey, To discover that the sky is the limit. And find an undying passion for living purposefully in the centre of God’s will!

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  1. 26 July 2019 / 1:11 pm

    Interesting thoughts on wisdom. With age, we gain no wisdom if we fail to take these steps of contemplation, reflection, and self evaluation. You’ve shared some great ideas for personal growth, if only we would pursue them. Over the course of a lifetime, we can grow in wisdom if we apply ourselves to learn from the experiences and the consequences of our decisions. You’ve detailed some wise steps for forward progress!

  2. Ava
    26 July 2019 / 7:09 pm

    Thanks Melinda for your encouraging feedback!

  3. 26 July 2019 / 11:13 pm

    Fresh insight on wisdom, Ava. I don’t think it is wise to “continually make decisions based on our instincts without any thought of the consequences.” True wisdom looks at all the angles including what might follow the decision or action. Only trusting our gut or going with what we think is right may not prove to be the best avenue.

  4. Ava
    28 July 2019 / 8:13 pm

    Thanks Karen for your uplifting feedback!

  5. Ava
    20 August 2019 / 1:00 pm

    This is true Karen! Praying and asking for God’s leading and peace even if we cannot speak out about our faith at work can be pivotal.

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