Detours Or Roadblocks : Why Pauses Are A Time For Reflection And Growth

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Are you undergoing a season of continuous tests?

Remember when you were in school, and in order to move from one level to the next, you had to take tests or undertake assignments. Aimed at assessing your personal growth.

Along our journey through life, God places many tests on our road. Whether we are on a straight path, unexpectedly there can be detours, roadblocks and deviations. As God takes us along a road trip or digression, where we cannot reach our destiny unless He is confident we are able to handle emotional, physical and spiritual tests.

Maybe pain and discomfort is your test right now. And like me, God is using this for His glory so that He can enable you to handle why He has you right in that difficult place you find yourself.

Most times our detours and roadblocks can be dependent on the personal choices and growth we make. Personal growth is something we need in order to encounter the plans and purposes of God. If we choose to be resentful, hard-headed or stubborn. Then sometimes we can find ourselves learning the same lesson repeatedly.

In the same way you exercise to strengthen your physical muscles. So too must your spiritual muscles be developed to move past selfishness, immaturity and doubt. And how many times do you give up sticking with an exercise regime or developing a new habit, because you want instant results. God has intentional purposes for the delays and detours in our lives. And the most fundamental part is that He uses them to develop us for where He next wants us to go.

In my own detour, I am discovering how much I require patience, if I want the process of healing to move in the correct direction. And here I am taking time to note God’s great plan for me, despite this roadblock.

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Do you take time to note the plan God has for your life, even in the middle of a detour?

Detours are common in the bible. Some well known examples include Moses who was being prepared in the wilderness before performing wonders because of ‘Yahweh’ His God. To Joseph whose journey was a long one, leading from the pit finally to the palace. Then Hannah who was barren but prayed faithfully that she would have a child. To Ruth who suffered misfortune, but gave up her heritage to serve her mother-in-law. We view how God used such differing situations to prepare each of these ordinary men and women to accomplish extraordinary tasks for Him. And their lives became miracles in the making. Of rescue, restoration and rebuilding only because of the sovereignty of God.

Like you and I, they might have asked many questions in the detours and roadblocks they encountered. But, without them, they never would have gained the mindset, faith and abilities to carry out God’s plan. Detours and roadblocks are the places that God uses to develop us, not let us get discouraged. So that we perceive every and any delay as part of God’s process in pursuit of His purposes in our life. With vulnerability and openness.

Are you questioning whether everything makes sense in the place you find yourself?

Personal growth is a never ending journey. That requires time. With tests and failings. We will overcome if we allow God to develop and strengthen our spiritual muscles. In addition to sharpening our spiritual insight and wisdom to His ways and characteristics.

Unfortunately, I cannot guarantee that you will not face detours or roadblocks. From temporary immobility to illness. Tragedy to grief. But, I want to encourage you to take every test as an opportunity to learn, grow and develop. And trust that God is safeguarding you. In addition, there is a divine reason for every detour He instates in your life.

You have a God-designed destiny. A God-inspired purpose and a God-intended place that only you can live out. However, it might not be instant. It might not even be in the straight route you planned out. There might be disappointments and obstacles in the process, but here God can fill you with His hope. One that will never disappoint.

As I look at the plans I had for July 2020, and how differently they have panned out. My heart is not filled with fear, but with hope that as I patiently wait for God’s time, He raises my hope to accept that pain through the process. Is a strengthening of my hope through any detour or affliction. Trial or discomfort.

Do you long to have hope that never disappoints?

Look up to God who can instil His authentic hope so that no matter what  detour or roadblock you are facing. Your faith will remain steady despite the storm and the circumstances. And you keep going because of faith. Like Moses, Joseph, Hannah and Ruth – they hoped against all hope. They believed when nothing seemed to be happening. And they continued to walk with God in faith, despite the delays.

It takes practice. And patience. Like any habit growing is not always an easy process. But maybe you can choose this with me. To thank God that every detour is meant for your good. That as a caring and attentive Father, he loves you enough to want you to flourish, be established and evolve and not be set in your ways of apprehension, ignorance and immaturity. For His preparation to be timely so that you are able to handle the destiny and dreams He has for you. After all it is only for God’s glory that everything I say is meant to inspire others. But in the process, I do not want to waste, lose or ruin the opportunities God grants me if I am not prepared to handle the purpose and destiny He has for me. In this phase He wants me to recognise His character ‘Jehovah Jireh’, my provider. My hope is being placed in Him alone and not the way things may seem. And ultimately boast in His providence and name.


This is no dead-end. God has great plans for your life. To shift you from fear to absolute faith. And personal development in His ways will open unexpected paths and prospects you never dreamt of. As you pray to discern God’s leading. Watch and wait. To do it God’s way, not your way.

Share your thoughts…

How do you trust God when there are detours or roadblocks – difficulties and disappointments in your life?

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  1. sabrinaant
    15 July 2020 / 5:53 pm

    I am using this season to rest and restore to prepare for what God has next. Thanks for sharing.

  2. Ava
    17 July 2020 / 2:32 pm

    Amazing, l pray your will be refreshed and revitalised!

  3. This indeed has been a testing season. Thank you for this. I tweeted it out because it blessed me and others need to see it as well. Thank you!

  4. Donna Miller
    20 July 2020 / 7:01 pm

    I love how you helped the reader understand spiritual growth by comparing it to our tests in school, which accessed our growth. God has led me through so many pauses and redirects and even road blocks, which later on (hindsight) showed me was His protection and guidance and growth for me. I’m learning anymore that life is more about the journey than the destination here on earth. And when I focus on my final destination in Heaven, I can relax more and enjoy the journey here on earth and not get so upset about little setbacks. Thank you for this beautiful post sweet sister! ❤

  5. 20 July 2020 / 7:46 pm

    YES! I have hope that never disappoints because my faith is in Jesus not my circumstances! It’s so important to always look to him no matter what circumstance you’re in. ?

  6. 21 July 2020 / 5:29 am

    There have been many seasons in my life where I have experienced setbacks and roadblocks! In each one I have learned and grown. It’s not always easy to trust God during hard times, but it’s always worth it!

  7. 21 July 2020 / 11:47 am

    I agree, Ava, that every roadblock is meant for our good. I believe that roadblocks are designed to purify us and work that spiritual muscle so that it continues to grow. We need these roadblocks to grow our faith and bring us closer to the Lord. It’s important that we recognize that.

  8. Betty Rojugbokan
    21 July 2020 / 12:28 pm

    That’s for this uplifting post, indeed detours are not always roadblocks just like delay is not denial.
    We will reap if we faint not, may God help us to hold fast till the end.

  9. 21 July 2020 / 4:12 pm

    Ava, hi! Thanks for the gentle reminder that tests, large and small, will come our way. But we don’t go it alone. He never leaves our side. I’m so grateful …

  10. walkinglightinjesus
    21 July 2020 / 5:24 pm

    I have faced many detours and roadblocks in my life. I’ve learned to be thankful for both because God is faithful and shows me each time how it worked out for the good (Romans 8:28). I agree that when we take the time to reflect…we grow. Beautiful post!

  11. Adriana David
    21 July 2020 / 9:10 pm

    Hi! Thank you so much for continuing your blog theme of detours through life. I love that you pointed out that personal growth and learning are lifelong. This is so true!

  12. 21 July 2020 / 10:44 pm

    This is such an encouragement to me and I’m sure many others. God does use our detours to develop us even though it may be painful or confusing. Thank you for reminding me today!

  13. 22 July 2020 / 2:48 am

    I love how you compare tests in school to our spiritual growth. And how you remind us that growth takes time and practice. It won’t always be easy but it is always worth it!

  14. kariminter
    22 July 2020 / 3:22 am

    Love that last statement, “this is no dead end.” What a great reminder that God does use all things for our good and His glory! Thanks for posting!

  15. jonisteinauer
    22 July 2020 / 8:14 pm

    Thank you for this beautiful post. God is so good and faithful to finish a good work in us. Blessings, Joni

  16. 23 July 2020 / 8:27 pm

    This is such great post that brings encouragement to my soul. The older I get, the more I realize the things you have written about are true. Detours are blessings in disguise and I have grown to be thankful for them.

  17. 23 July 2020 / 9:48 pm

    I’ve encountered quite a few roadblocks and detours in my life that have caused a lot of frustration. Going through one right now, actually. Oh Lord, help me to look to you and trust you!

  18. 24 July 2020 / 2:40 am

    Ava, this is really good! It helps seeing disappointments using the visual of detours and roadblocks. It really does require patience and putting our trust and hope in God and not our own ability to drive around them.

  19. 24 July 2020 / 11:01 am

    I’m in this same exact season where God had taken me on a detour. You’re right that it develops you and builds your faith. I’m learning to trust God more and more with my future because after all He is my Creator. Thank you for sharing great tips ?

  20. Teresa Hodge
    24 July 2020 / 3:47 pm

    My faith and hope for now and the future, whatever detours I may face, rests in the truth of God’s Word that says—“As for God, his way is perfect.” (Psalms 18:30) God’s way, whatever that means for me, IS PERFECT! My job is to simply stay surrendered to Him and looking to Him for everything I need. This was a blessing and a needed reminder! Thank you! Blessings! ?

  21. Ava
    24 July 2020 / 11:34 pm

    Thanks so much, glad you were blessed!

  22. Ava
    24 July 2020 / 11:35 pm

    That is an awesome way to look at this Donna, so appreciate your encouragement and feedback ❤

  23. Ava
    24 July 2020 / 11:35 pm

    I totally agree with you Emily!

  24. Ava
    24 July 2020 / 11:38 pm

    Thanks M.J. there is so much to learn!

  25. Ava
    24 July 2020 / 11:39 pm

    You are so right Wendy it is about building our faith and drawing us closer to God!

  26. Ava
    24 July 2020 / 11:40 pm

    That’s very encouraging Betty!

  27. Ava
    24 July 2020 / 11:41 pm

    Thanks Linda! Yes God is with us in all things!

  28. Ava
    24 July 2020 / 11:43 pm

    Thank you! Incredible verse yes God works it all out for our good!

  29. Ava
    24 July 2020 / 11:46 pm

    So glad you are enjoying this Adriana. I am in this phase and l feel that what l am learning should be shared!

  30. Ava
    24 July 2020 / 11:47 pm

    Thanks for the inspiration Adriane!

  31. Ava
    24 July 2020 / 11:51 pm

    Glad you found the comparison useful Colleen. Thanks for the reminder that any growth will be worth it!

  32. Ava
    24 July 2020 / 11:52 pm

    Thanks for taking the time to read this Kari!

  33. Ava
    24 July 2020 / 11:53 pm

    Thanks Joni!

  34. Ava
    24 July 2020 / 11:54 pm

    I am so glad you found this useful, have an awesome weekend!

  35. Ava
    24 July 2020 / 11:55 pm

    Praying for you Summer. I know how you feel but keeping my eyes above ??

  36. Ava
    25 July 2020 / 4:50 pm

    Absolutely Teresa, to trust God with every step is incredible!

  37. Ava
    25 July 2020 / 4:52 pm

    Thanks Mary I am so grateful for God’s ways, they are nothing like our own!

  38. Ava
    25 July 2020 / 4:53 pm

    It’s an excellent season Tinashe to let go and let God work in our hearts!

  39. 25 July 2020 / 9:25 pm

    Following you now, Ava. As a writer, I have especially enjoyed this detour though given others’ sufferings, I don’t say this too often. It has given me a lot of alone time to develop many needed skills and a broader network. Thanks for the perspective.

  40. Ava
    25 July 2020 / 11:06 pm

    Great, the key is to learn and become braver!

  41. 26 July 2020 / 3:13 pm

    This is such a great reminder. Sometimes we need the detours and deviations in life to learn something amazing that God has been trying to reach us with. And sometimes, along those detours, we find the most amazing blessings from God.

  42. Ava
    26 July 2020 / 3:30 pm

    Yes that’s so true, thanks for stopping by!

  43. 27 July 2020 / 4:19 am

    I also love that we have a God designed journey. He knows best!

  44. Ava
    27 July 2020 / 12:22 pm

    That is so true!

  45. 27 July 2020 / 11:57 pm

    Relying on God’s word helps me to stay rooted when I deal with disappointment.

  46. Ava
    28 July 2020 / 7:34 pm

    What a secure anchor Mamie!

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