Are you having a hard time getting on track and regaining focus with work and life?
Burnout is something we might not be able to avoid. Health experts inform us that burnout has close links with chronic work stress. And we should recognise the difference between a busy workload and something more serious. The working world has shifted to more ‘working from home’ and the need to remain effective and motivated away from the office and your team. If you are someone who struggles to use your own initiative and cannot work autonomously, then recognising the feelings of exhaustion, mental detachment and poorer performance is key.
Often managers highlight concerns, but as an employee, it is important you place a finger on this so you do not suffer alone, but gain the help you need. Taking work issues home, being involved in other people’s emotional issues can all lead to your own emotional exhaustion. With burnout becoming an explosive situation globally, health organisations are raising crucial concerns and the prevalence of this is rising.
4 top tips for you to slip into your schedule that will help you…
- Tackle the creation of lifestyle changes, ward off resentment in situations and avoid burnout that follows in difficult times.
- Recognise early signs allowing you to realise what causes those resentful feelings and move from being self-indulgent or self-centred to self-compassionate.
- Increase awareness of the trigger points, to enable learning how not to isolate yourself or become emotionally unavailable to those closest to you.
Choosing to treat yourself with love and dignity is not self-centred
But it shows you are being accountable for your professional and personal emotions. And being mindful of not inflicting any toxic feelings towards others. At the end of the day, your well-being should be a priority. So, working long hours, not drinking enough water and skipping meals is something you can control.
If you gain some insight and discover ways to manage your focus. Often it can be when you are feeling demoralised by circumstances and exhausted from all the external pressures. This is a sign to withdraw and restore yourself. And keep in mind the long-term perspective that your health and well-being should be at the top of your list. To maintain your maximum performance and productivity.
Tension is what we reach for when situations overwhelm us, however, choosing to breathe in courage and breathe out fear is the fastest and simplest form of relaxation in any moment.
- Will you be committed to act?
- Will you observe when you feel trapped by what is going on around you – home, work and life?
Any stress is manageable if you choose to adopt the right attitude and use change to convert any negative stress into a positive one. Because the demands in the world we live in will continue, but that shouldn’t stifle the longings of your heart to reach your goals and aspire towards your dreams. When you feel like you are in a bad mood, step out your door and take a walk in the surrounding parks and countryside. There is something magical that you can find in the moments when you move away from your critical daily life and choose to take a mini break alone in nature.
- The quickest question you can ask yourself right now is – will this problem matter in a year’s time? Then choose yes to change it – or no to let it go.
Reestablish your choices – be miserable or motivate yourself
We feel caught in a cycle of burnout because we repeat the same task over and over again, and sometimes cannot see any results. Stepping away and trying to find the funny or lighter side in a situation, will allow you to gauge whether the load you carrying is worth putting down. Or it might be the way you are carrying it that feels like it is breaking you.
Obstacles can be dealt with, and with prayer you will gain the strength to release stuff to God in that moment. Even if it is a simple one-line prayer. Finding the balance in life is often pointed towards how we manage our time. But it could be something as simple as introducing boundaries and better managing the boundaries you already have made.
- When you overstretch your personal boundaries, you can lose a grip on your sense of purpose and balance.
- When you refresh your sense of belonging, then you are able to take time to reinvigorate and nourish your overall well-being so that you can protect yourself from burnout.
It all begins with slowing down. And you can sit down and devise a plan on how your will handle pressures and how you will believe in yourself. Think of the person you know you are, never allow anyone to tell you that you are different, because you do not need to fit into the box of being someone else’s version of special or awesome.
Exercising happiness is your choice
If I feel that the stresses of life are affecting me, a counterintuitive way is choosing to see the happy side of the situation and taking power back over the situation by thinking about self-care. Most times we can convince ourselves that we have a challenging month, when instead we could be on the edge of burnout. Although stress can be a powerful motivator to get things done, if we continually expose ourselves to situations that cause us to get stressed or feel anxious, eventually, it will lead to burnout. I get it that you have a big project and it feels awesome with the adrenaline rush to keep aspiring higher. But finding the balance is the key.
Comparatively, when you begin to feel of little value to others, avoid any social connections or become easily disappointed to the point of becoming distant or numb emotionally and mentally, and ordinary life seems like too much to deal with. This could be a sign to realise you could be reaching the top end of the scale of depletion.
If you are that person who goes and never stops and is always attempting to juggle too many balls, then you might question your capabilities. The turning point is to get to the root of the problem. And that begins by being honest and asking yourself some serious questions.
- What is going on in my life right now?
- Are these temporary or permanent impediments?
- Can I let go of any of these issues to help myself recover?
Quit trying to be perfect or cover up your feelings of being inferior to others
Work related stress can stem from feeling unfairly treated at work or unable to manage your workload or even having a lack of clarity on your role and responsibilities. If you require the support of your manager, then it is not unreasonable to ask for this. We may want to have the perfect life. From a successful job to amazing fitness goals, an impressive social life and admirable family. But don’t mislead yourself into believing what society tells you or comparing yourself to others.
- By reviewing what to prioritise and not make unreasonable expectations for yourself.
- By figuring out what is going wrong and not beating yourself up by attempting to manage everything all at once. Such as working from home, childcare, the anxieties of COVID-19, the need to keep fit, healthy and staying one step ahead. So that you are not hustling to the brink of exhaustion.
Where do you go from here? Nothing lasts forever, you will get through this challenging time if you choose to remain positive, be flexible and manage your ability to cope in the day to day things. In the process, you will be amazed at the significant life skills you are acquiring to contend with pressures and stress. In addition to learning coping mechanisms such as the importance of unwinding and not choosing exhaustion to be your navigating force. Even if the pandemic is forcing us all to rapidly hit the ground running and grapple with complex decisions in an uneasy and unsettling shifting environment.
Share your thoughts…
What individual decisions are you making daily to stoke anxiety, deal with unprecedented emotional exhaustion and find new coping mechanisms?