Do you see yourself as resilient?
How can you build your confidence to deal with challenging people and situations?
Every insecurity that we invest in, will only bring anxiety and a lack of confidence. Leading us to become an uncertain person. If you have a low self-esteem because something or someone led you to believe that you are insignificant or don’t measure up. Now is a good time to consider how to replace your emotional insecurities with God given confidence. To not permit self-doubts to make you despondent. If you need help, please reach out, there are many clinical professionals who can counsel and offer advice to deal with insecurities before they lead to something more serious like depression.
At the beginning of the week, we considered tips to let go of ‘insecurities’ as we recognise how they affect our relationships with others.
In this leap year and to end the month of February, this post will examine how to defy the shadows. So that from the point of recognition, our attitudes and abilities are not shaped by the negative comments and actions that others impose on us. With our identity founded in God, we know we are secure in who He has made us to be. There is no fear in God’s perfect love (1 John 4:18).
Manage insecurities to ensure they do not impact your life and your future relationships…
Identify where your insecurity is coming from. Discarding a desperate attitude to gain one of confidence will be worth every opportunity and new skill you will attain along rough roads. Where you won’t allow the critical voice of others to sabotage your destiny.
- Do you have a set of rules of what you will do, but so far there has been no success?
- Let’s begin by not giving in to our own critical self-talk. Why not compliment yourself instead? By choosing to build your confidence through positive affirmation.
When others pull you down, recognise whether it was mean and ill intended. Then be compassionate towards yourself. You don’t have to feel uneasy or nervous. A better way is turning your perspective to God. Look to who God would want you to be. A confident and dignified woman that He made you to be (Proverbs 3:26).
1| Know your own mind
Design a SMART vision for your future goals. Decide what you want to do. Break down each goal and write out a plan for every one. Embrace the fact that God makes you worthy. You are His masterpiece. The past is behind you and you can rewrite how your story will end. When you allow space to multiply your anxieties, you never learn how to overcome your fears of not being good enough. If you continue this pattern, how can you expect anyone else to love you, if you don’t love yourself? Investing in yourself is not selfish if you are becoming an authentic person with integrity. Saying no doesn’t mean you are missing out. It means you not willing to fit into someone else’s mould.
2| Know you are perfect as you are
The media portrays fame and reality shows as glamourous. You can get swooned into the culture that you don’t look or feel suitable or sufficient. Highlighting imperfections that might not even exist. The infrastructure of the roads you trek on throughout the journey of your life, outline that you have a unique purpose for why you are in your world. Become a beautiful woman from the inside out. So that others will identify this and be attracted to your kindess and generosity. Striving to be accepted doesn’t automatically mean you will be. Life is filled with love and sadness, hardship and abundance, destitution and success. To let go and move forward you need to ditch your unhealthy patterns. Those things that you are addicted to.
- Be amazing at everything you do.
- Put laughter back into your life.
- Perpetually trust God to safeguard unlimited peace.
- Practice confidence building every day. Some simple tasks include looking and dressing well to boost your self-confidence. Smile at everyone or greet your work colleagues each day with enthusiasm.
- You don’t have to be anyone else’s definition of perfect or follow what you believe others presume you should be.
When you stop this battle with perfection, the expectations, validation or opinion of others will not obstruct you from simply being you.
3| Know you can be you
Don’t lose sight of who you are. To become an effective leader, you will need to earnestly learn how to lead yourself first.
- Are there things holding you back from your past?
- Where you were laughed at in school or talked about negatively at work?
Unconsciously you withdrew. Became reserved. Introverted to walking through life as if you were invisible. Life is about discovery and rediscovery of yourself, your purpose and vision.
- Be who you want to be. With practice and discipline you will progress.
- Choose to be happy because positiveness enhances the blessings we might overlook.
- There is so much you can be grateful for. If you embrace a good attitude.
Your worth is founded in who Christ says you are, giving you plans of hope (Jeremiah 29:11). Don’t be afraid to say no to people or circumstances that you acknowledge are disadvantageous to your ethos. Because you value your worth, more than how someone else may value you. If anyone tells you to be someone else, then be brave to not settle for less than who you really are.
- Flip your insecurities into confidence with new choices and actions.
- Develop a mutual trust with those you love that you can nurture over the years.
- Build relationships where you don’t require constant assurance from someone else to validate who you are. Because you know you are enough. God repeatedly says so! And you don’t need to rely on anyone to confirm that you are kind enough, beautiful enough, daring enough, and confident enough! If you are living within His will.
Share your thoughts…
Who do you say you are? What do you think God says you are?