25 Tips To Let Go of Insecurities That Affect Your Relationship With Others

Are you confident in who you are?

What happened in your past does not define your future. Neither does insecurity help you develop flourishing relationships with others. Be ready to embrace those awkward feelings and situations your find yourself in and push past your limiting beliefs about yourself.

Do you wrestle with low self-esteem, especially in your relationships with others?

Insecurity is that subtle emotion that creeps in or pounces unexpectedly and affects so many areas of our lives. All around, we observe a world in crisis. No matter how much we think we know. Reality proves that we don’t really know or understand everything.

Insecurities could include your lack of confidence. Uncertainty in yourself. Nervousness or anxiety that forms self-doubts. If you never address these feelings, you can whirl in chaos and shift your perspective constantly. Leaving you unsteady. Investing in personal growth and self-development offers you a means to consider how you aim to change apprehensive behaviours. To what you aim to be in the future. And being insecure is not on your list.

By taking the time to love yourself first and become more assertive, you can ensure that as a result you will love others more effectively. Because it is impossible to serve from an empty cup. To reach this means self-actualising as you take stock of your growth in all areas of your life.

  • Reflect on all your past experiences.
  • Rotate each lesson life presents you with, to outline goals for how you will enable choices not to repeat past mistakes in your ideal future.
  • Plan how to turn your objectives into reality.
  • Acknowledge your accomplishments and brace new possibilities with inspiration and hope.
  • Improve your perspective to step into future friendships and a life-long relationship with your husband.
  • Take useful advice forward and leave what isn’t beneficial behind. As you trek through life in your individual progression.

Are you struggling with insecurities that narrow your view and perception about how others see you?

How you treat yourself will be reflected by how you allow others to treat you. You may have believed in fairy tales and daydreamed about the idea of happily ever after from a young age. Where Disney films depict how every girl marries her prince. Riding into the sunset with her knight in shining armour. Too soon though you will be confronted with reality which is so much more complicated.

  • You should not choose to be in a relationship and want to get married simply because you met someone – who you want to make you complete. You should already be that complete person.
  • You cannot constantly be self-critical of your passions and purpose, if you are to replace your insecurities with confidence.
  • Overcoming insecurity will be a lifetime exercise, so be patient. Don’t go searching for your self-worth in the wrong places.
  • Your worth should not be founded in something or someone. Instead you should cherish the knowledge that your identity (of who you are, more importantly who God says you are) originates in Him.
  • Striving to present a perfect picture of yourself to everyone that masks your inadequacies isn’t natural. Embrace that God makes you important and accepted. Valued and loved. Before you take a step towards finding someone.

How can you overcome the continual battle with your insecurities to the point that you feel threatened or inadequate in the way you think about yourself?

  • Your aim should be established in who God says you are – a strong woman who knows that her value is rooted in her faith in God. Who learns how to manage insecure moments and not allow it to seriously impact her life.
  • With the right person, you will know when to give him space because you appreciate your own space.
  • Embracing your self-worth doesn’t mean you are selfish. It means setting wise and healthy boundaries. Where you live intentionally as God would want you to.
  • There is a balance between putting yourself as a priority and accepting being treated as a walk over.
  • As you grow and mature (in your personal day to day life as a Christian), you will become coherent about what you will and will not tolerate.
  • Your insecurities should not leave you vulnerable and permit others to disrespect you because you are a kind and trusting person.
  • Demonstrate God’s love in your actions and choices, but distinguish when you are being belittled, to prevent being exploited by others for their own agenda or gain.

Did you know that marriage does not abolish insecurities, neither will being in love with someone?

  • Avoid getting caught up in the Cinderella dream where you see everyone else’s live and you want what they have, because you believe this will make you happy. Don’t fall into the trap that if you get married there will be a blissful ending.
  • Your identity crisis and overcoming insecurity can only be worked out with God’s grace. As you learn that you can be safe and secure in His love.
  • When you feel like you have to make things happen – be in love, find your other half, get married. All this introduces you to is the wrong situations, because it displays a sense of desperation.
  • On no account, become more obsessed with the dream, than the person you want to meet. Leading you to forget who you are. And settle because you are unable to face being on your own.
  • Never be willing to sacrifice everything you are to make someone else happy or please them. This will repel not attract positive friendships or relationships.
  • When you stop acting desperate and are confident in yourself and your goals. You don’t need someone else to validate your plans or purpose. You can stand up for what you believe in. The right person will complement God’s plans for your life, not contrast them.
  • Time has a way of revealing God’s choice plans. He does not need you to rush things along. God’s schedule does not follow your calendar. But our attitude and endurance to testings is the doorway to how we obtain confidence and discard desperation.


Lastly don’t get discouraged if things seem slow. Managing insecurities takes time as you consciously iron out your inadequacies, by facing them with God. When you identify the root, let go of the negative experiences from your past and stop overthinking, you can stop insecurity from creating a wedge in your relationships with those closest to you. Rather than channel it towards jealousy, use this energy to invest in doing something productive for your future.

  • To begin the week, the post is about letting go of insecurities that can affect important relationships in your life.
  • For the end of the week, do come back as we will look at ways to replace your insecurities with confidence.

Share your thoughts…

How are you learning to shape your self-image and influence your behaviour by overcoming the overwhelming sinking of insecurities?


Don’t know where to start? Practice makes perfect and you only get one chance to be the best version of yourself! Now is the time to invest in you. You can find a better way to get through you break-up. Infuse every moment with beauty. Influence every God-given dream into your destiny. And impress your tomorrow with hope and expectancy. You don’t have to do this alone and I know exactly how you feel. But there is hope in your journey, To discover that the sky is the limit. And find an undying passion for living purposefully in the centre of God’s will!

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  1. Angela Fritsch
    24 February 2020 / 1:11 pm

    Great information! I’ll be sharing this with my daughter. Shes 23 and feeling pretty lonely. Thanks for the insight!

  2. Ava
    24 February 2020 / 1:17 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing Angela! I will be thinking of your daughter and praying for her.

  3. 24 February 2020 / 1:19 pm

    Great points. Thanks for sharing.

  4. 24 February 2020 / 3:08 pm

    All wonderful points, Ava. Especially love how you make the point it’s impossible to serve from an empty cup! I’ll be sharing more of these tweets.

  5. Jessica Brodie
    24 February 2020 / 3:53 pm

    I love these points. Thanks, Ava!

  6. Ej
    24 February 2020 / 8:21 pm

    These are great points. I like how you pointed out that getting rid of insecurities is a lifelong struggle. The enemy will always try to feed us lies to make us question our worth. We have to hold firm in our identity in Christ and combat his lies with God’s truth.

  7. Ava
    24 February 2020 / 9:24 pm

    Blessings to you this week!

  8. Ava
    24 February 2020 / 9:25 pm

    Thanks Karen! It is so hard to love others when we depleted. That’s when we need God’s refill!

  9. Ava
    24 February 2020 / 9:26 pm

    Blessings to you this week! Thanks Jessica!

  10. Ava
    24 February 2020 / 9:26 pm

    Absolutely! Thanks Ej!

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